Have you seen this photo doing the rounds? You might have seen it on Instagram, you might have heard about it on Facebook, heck you might even have read about it in the papers or heard it on the radio.
Yep. The Christmas gifts overtaking the Christmas Tree photo that Boss Mum, also known as Emma, posted that has gone viral.
And with all things viral has attracted all sorts of comments, some lovely, some from obvious trolls, some bewildered and some downright nasty cyber bullying.
Is there any need?
Yes, there are a lot of presents. So what?
Yes, £1,500 is a lot of money. That is for her three children and her husband. I think £1,500 is pretty good going personally. I digress. So what that she’s spent £1,500?
Are these presents blocking your view of your tree? Has the money been taken from your bank account?
Then why are you bothered?
Now, I guess you could call me hypocritical by saying why do you feel the need to talk about it and then doing just that. But it irks me when people are downright mean for no reason.
I know that Emma can also stand up for herself.
But that’s not really the point. The point is that it can be lonely doing it on your own. That one hateful comment does a lot more damage than a thousand sweet words can heal. That one hateful comment can bounce around in your head, over and over magnifying it.
That’s not what Christmas spirit is about. That’s not what Christmas joy is. That is most definitely not following the biblical lessons of love thy neighbour or do unto others as you would have done unto you.
Just when did society become so judgey? Is it the rise of social media in our lives and homes, allowing us to share more than ever before, often with complete strangers? Is it just more people have louder opinions these days on what they think (and therefore we should all think) is right?
I think the question you should be asking yourself is WHY are you judging her so strongly? So harshly? Making assumptions on her life that you know nothing about.
That, my friend, says more about you than it does about anyone else.
And Emma? I hope that you delight in your children opening their gifts on Christmas morning. Because there is no better feeling that seeing the utter joy on your child’s face when you know you’ve got something just right. Let no one take that away from you.
Debbie from My Random Musings has written more on this over at “When Strangers Judge!“