Nevermind, the next one might be a girl

“Nevermind the next one might be a girl.”

Of all the things to say to someone pregnant, I can tell you that this is not a good one.  Ever.

pregnancy gender reveal

From deciding to take the leap to try for our third child, to actually finding out we were pregnant, there has been some speculation over the sex of our baby.  Probably because we have two, wonderful, little boys already.  And obviously we were only having a third child to create a magical, mystical, girl.

I mean, why else would we be trying for a third child, other than to have a girl?!

It couldn’t possibly be that we hoped for a third baby to complete our little family after all.

“Oh, you’re having THREE boys?”

Something about having children of the same sex seems to bring out bumbling comments from others.  Real foot in the mouth moments that have you looking bemused as you try to shield the bump from hearing such comments.

So you’ll be going for a fourth then?

Oh, three boys, maybe next time.

I bet your husband is pleased, he won’t have to be an overprotective dad

….. and how do you feel about that?

Imagine the wrestling

I can’t ever imagine having three boys

I’m sure all are said in good spirit, from a kind hearted place.  But I mean, come on.  Give me a break.

You’re talking about our much loved, and wanted, baby.  Regardless of what sex they are – we planned, schemed and have been dreaming about this baby since before I even peed on the stick that told me he was coming.

Would I have loved a little girl?

Yes.  Exactly the same as I love this little boy.

Because the thing is, with the best will in the world, we couldn’t have predicted whether this little one was going to be a girl or a boy.  And funnily enough we went into conception with our eyes wide open that this could be a girl OR a boy.  And we still went ahead with our attempt to get pregnant.

It just so happens this is our third baby boy.

And yes, I appreciate that gender disappointment is something which happens.  But, and this is a pretty important but, it hasn’t happened here.

Please do not project, assume or say anything other than how wonderful it is that my baby is healthy, happy and kicking up a storm inside of me.

Because at the end of the day, that’s what he is, my littlest, my baby.

And he is simply perfect.




  1. September 11, 2018 / 4:48 pm

    Yesssss! To everything you said. This is our second. We didn’t find out the gender with our first and we are 6 weeks from DD with this one. People are already assuming it’s a boy and making these comments. We just want healthy children. I never had it in my mind I would have x number of boy or girls. I just want happy babies. Congratulations on your baby boy I can’t wait to see photos of all those little ones together

  2. September 12, 2018 / 8:59 pm

    Totally agree we have two girls 10 & 7 and planned to have a third child not by accident as some people have assumed! We kept the sex of our third a complete surprise but throughout the pregnancy we were asked if we were trying for the boy. Why would we go through pregnancy and labour for the chance of a specific sex?? We did end up having a boy but would have been happy with a healthy good. Some people can’t have children full stop so we are blessed to have three healthy children.

  3. September 24, 2018 / 12:22 pm

    I have three boys so have heard all these comments and more! Mine are 11, 9 and 5 now and they’re wonderful. They get on really well but they are also really different – ‘three of the same gender’ is very definitely not ‘three of the same’. Congratulations and I wish you much happiness xxx

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